outlook

saturday we had a conversation with our daughter after we took the family to see a movie.

it started, how did you like the movie?

the gist:

daughter told us parents everything that happened during the movie experience. all negative.

1. loud person next to her

2. missing a part cuz she had to walk with alex to the bathroom. (i give her that.)

3. alex dropped the popcorn

4. loud person next to her

5- 25. i don't remember.

garrett and i exchange a 'what the heck?' glance.

garret said something to make her laugh really hard. he has perfect timing with stuff like that.

me:

that's lame. i'm sorry. life is easier if you focus on the positive.

she said:

but all the things i said were true.

me:

they are true.

we told her that there will ALWAYS be negative things that happen. every single day. at every single event. at every single thing she has looked forward to, or dreamed about, or planned.

you have to look at things a different way, and find the positive. look at it from a different angle.

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so it's a nice reminder to me on another level. the same is true when looking around at others and their lives. the grass is always greener... we tend to see others' positives (and our negatives). but everyone has their yellow and brown patches.

*i took these 2 pictures (of the same 2 dishes) after i went to the cupboard for a bowl and found this bowl and plate. the sentence "the kids did the dishes." came to my mind, with a low, disgusted tone. then immediately i thought, "the kids did the dishes" this time with a thankful tone. they are actually at the age where they do help out. i remember many days, weeks, years... where i had no help from them on that level. at least now they are contributing where they can. we can always work on 'technique'. 'will' is what matters most to me.